Fashion over Education

It's non of my business what people do with their lives and money, but one thing really bothers me and that is: parents who spend hundreds of dollars on clothes for their kids instead of saving that money for their college education or other necessary things their kid might need along the way.

You see, I don't come from a wealthy family, so I understand that my parents didn't have enough ching ching to save for my college education, so I do understand that value of a dollar. Living here in the states I have seen things that are just...disgusting. If you're living off welfare, how the hell can you afford a $600 stroller? Or super expensive baby gadgets? Buying clothes for your kid all the time...and not clothes from kohls or old navy more like shoping at Lord and Taylor. Why the hell do you NEED to buy your kid name brand clothes? Do babies really care what they where? Will other babies judge your baby for wearing something from Marshalls or Old Navy? Or even Wal-Mart for that matter? Your baby is going to grow out of it in no time anyway.

Why spend $60 on a pair of shoes for a 3year old? I don't get it! Why not save that money for something more important in your childs life? Kids don't care what they wear. Teens in the other hand do. But still, there is so much money spent on stupid things that it's just ridiculous. I can't believe people actually spend hundreds of dollars on their kids just to make them look "fresh". You know, Old Navy, Marshalls, The Childrens Place, Kohls...all have super cute clothes for babies and kids and at a very good price. Cheap, and they're good clothes.

And let's face it, do you actually think these parents do it for their kids? NO! It's more of a competition of who dresses their baby or kid better. The child has become an accessory!!! -excuse me I need to barf now-

How can you call yourself an extraordinary parent if your spending money on things your kid doesn't really need. Save it for his or her future, they will be grateful for it someday.

I honestly don't know why I'm writing this at this time of the night...I just had a little tick in my brain bothering me saying: write it! Write it now!

People, please...think of what's really important in your childs life. It's not name brand clothes, or fancy shoes and sneakers. Kids don't care about those things. Save that money for their future, invest in something that will educate them and nourish their little brains. Don't raise little monsters for the future or gold diggers. Kids just want to be kids!

Cheers!
-M

Mosque at ground zero?

Are you kidding me? I understand that we live in a country where we have "freedom of religion", but building a mosque at ground zero is just, absurd. I know that I can't judge every single Muslim because they're not all the same, I've met some amazing Muslim people who happen to be great friends. But to have the Hamas terror group leader say that they have to build it, is just wrong. It's not about "freedom of religion" it's about respect to the memory of those who were KILLED on 9/11 in the name of ALLAH. We cannot ignore that fact. President Obama is all for it, because we have "freedom of religion" yet last year he requested that Georgetown University cover up or remove Roman Catholic icons and symbols that adorn one of their halls and also to cover up a monogram that symbolizes the name of Jesus Christ. Nothing makes sense to me right now. Am I stupid or what? I am not saying to not build the mosque, just build it elsewhere. It's an insult to the lost lives and their loved ones.

I feel that by letting this mosque be built at that sight gives them a sense of empowerment over this nation, it's like saying; we killed you, we don't give a damn and we're taken over. We have no conscience whatsoever. It's like us going to their country and building Church's all over the place, yes, we have invaded but, in the words of a 5 year old: they started it. We don't have the intention of making their country a christian one, so why would they want to "eliminate" us all and make America a Muslim place? Just because their Koran says every infidel should be eliminated? If America is so bad, what are they doing here? It is the land of the free and brave, but why come here and try and change our way of living? Practice your religion, have your beliefs, but don't go killing people just because they don't share your same beliefs. What do you call a country that doesn't let women have an education? A country where women are stoned to death, where children are taught to be terrorists? Are you kidding me?

I don't know what most of you think, but personally I thik IT IS wrong to build the mosque at ground zero.

Cheers!
-M

I am ME.

Hello there bloggies!!!

Once again I haven't written in over a week...as usual, I'm busy and tired. Anyway, this week the movie I have been waiting for all summer long, finally came out. Eat Pray Love. I must say that I absolutely loved it. It was great and honestly put my mind to think...a lot. The funny thing is that the post I was going to write last week had to do with some things about the movie. Things that have been running through my head lately.

I've been thinking a lot of the way "life" is suppose to be. The way we are brought up, the way society makes us think. We are told to go to school, which is absolutely fine, that we must graduate before our mid-20's (in order to be successful. Who says we can't be successful after our 30's?), that we should be married before our 30's and start a family by then and have a home and live "happy". Who is to say that this will give you a happy life? Who guarantees you, you WILL be happy with all of this? NO ONE!

I am now in my mid-20's, I'm still in college, still not married,still have no children and I happen to not have a fat bank account. I must say, I am happy this way. Not everyone knows what they want to be by 18. It took me 23 years to figure out what I want to be in the near future. My parents have always stressed me out about "my future" and what life should be like, always telling me how life will be awful if I don't hurry up and finish school. I do wish though that by 18 I had known what I know now, maybe I'd be done with school, but maybe I wouldn't be the person I am today. To be completely honest I AM happy to be who I am right now, I'm not another one in the bunch. I am ME. I am Marielys. I am happy to not be married. I am happy to not be a mother (yet). I am happy to still be a college student. I am happy to have chosen to live life the way I want. I choose to not care what others may think of me or their oppinion about the way I live. I don't have the time nor energy. At the end of the day no one pays my bills, nor buys me food or clothes. I am happy to know that I live to make myself happy...I don't have to live according to someone elses view on how life should be. I live to my own expectations and what makes me happy.

Who says I have to be a college graduate by 25? Who says I should be married before 30? Who says it's time to start a family? Is there a rule on life? NO! Unlike others, my parents are not wealthy but did all they could to raise me good and give me good values. They didn't have the means to put my through college. I have been suporting myself since I was 19, I happen to pay for school and all other expenses I might have. It's not easy, but I've managed. I am glad it's been this way...it has made me who I am today. I do have a plan which I plan to achieve. I do want to be married, I do want children and I do want a nice home...just not yet.

Sometimes I feel like I'm running out of time, because so many people tell me: OMG you're 25? No hubby, no kids, no college? But you know what, I still have a whole life ahead of me and I still think I'm pretty young. It will all happen on MY own time.

I really love who I am...and also happen to love everyone around me, even if they agree or don't agree with my way of thinking.

Cheers!
-M

My Opinion

Hello there bloggies,
I know I had promised to write something everyday, but it seems like I'm too busy and way too tired at the end of the day to sit down and write something. Soooo, I think I might make it more of a weekly thing, unless I'm not that tired and decide to write something during the week.

A few things have happened in the past couple of days that has put my mind to think, and wonder and question; WTF is wrong with people in this world?

First off, I want to tell you about a little misunderstanding that happened a couple of weeks ago. About three weeks ago I posted on my status how it made me feel uncomfortable to open my FB page and find on my news feed: Happy Sabbath! Not because it's a bad thing, because it's not. But, the fact that it is posted by people who call themselves Seventh Day Adventists, who go to church on Saturdays yet you can find them at a bar on a Friday or Thursday night. I didn't intend to write this directed to anyone in particular, it was more of a "to whom ever it may apply". Personally I don't see anything wrong with dancing and having a couple of drinks after all it's your life and whatever you do with it is your problem...non of my business. So, what's my problem? I don't have one, the thing is that when you decide to become a Seventh Day Adventist you take some vows before getting baptized and promise to live your life according to the teachings of the SDA church and remain faithful, otherwise you can be erased from the church. People who don't abide by these rules make me think of them as hypocrites. SDA's don't drink, dance or party etc. When I see a "SDA" doing these things I honestly don't see him as a SDA, I just happen to see him/her as a Christian.

My best friend does not agree with me, due to the fact that she is a SDA and stills pulls off going out to dance and what not. Does this make her a horrible person? NO! A bad Christian? NO! I do not want to be one to pass judgement because I am nobody to do such thing and I am far from being perfect baby. I myself was a SDA and didn't always live my life according to their teachings, but I tried my best to obey the rules though I got off the tracks quite a few times. I then decided to be a Christian, not an Adventist or a Pentecostal or a Catholic or a Muslim...just a Christian. Someone who believes in God with all her heart. Christianity is very important in my life and acknowledging that there is a God as well. Jesus is my hommie! I just don't want to be labeled under any religion, why? Because I will then be targeted if I don't live my life according to the teachings of whatever church. To me religion splits family, people and the world apart. I rather have a general knowledge of Christianity than live by the rules of any religion. I am a Christian and that's all you should know. I don't have to prove to anyone or any church my relationship with God.

My best friend still believes that it's OK to go out and drink and still go to church on Saturdays and call yourself a SDA, that's her view on things and I respect that, there is no way anyone can change her way of thinking and seeing things and that's fine. It's her life and she can do with it as she pleases to. My status like I said was not directed to anyone it was just a thought...an opinion. Now you know what really disappoints me? That some "Adventist" will read this and immediately pass judgement on me and if he or she is "my friend" that person might not talk to me again for not having his or her same beliefs. Is that a REAL christian? A real friend? NOPE!

Anyways, my point is that everyone has a different opinion about life and religion and everything in between, some choose to keep it to themselves and shut their mouths, others, like me like to share their opinion and shout it out loud without being scared of what people might think. Some may not like it, some will...but then again who cares? I live in a free country and have the wonderful freedom of speech. Can I get a HOOOORAAAY for that? HOOOOORAAAAY!

On another note, on Saturday night I watched a movie that made me cry like I was a baby. I was sobbing! "The Stoning of Soraya M." to me is a wonderful film, yes, a little graphic, but great. I cried as if I knew the woman. After watching the movie my mind was just racing, thinking of all the atrocious things that happen to woman around the world and we don't even know of. I thought of how woman are treated like shit in other countries and it just broke my heart to pieces. I thought of how lucky I am to be an American, to be able to speak and express myself, to be able to dress as I wish to, to have the right to vote and the freedom to date as many men as I want without being stoned to death. I love that I don't have to put up with being treated like crap by a man, that I have the choice of making my own decisions and believing whatever I want to believe, that a man has no right whatsoever to do with me whatever he pleases to. It makes me angry to see how women in this country let men treat them like garbage knowing that they don't have to put up with it. Ladies, have some self respect and love yourselves, if you don't, no one else will...you will then be a rag doll and treated as one. If men want to play, show him the way to the closest "Toys 'R' Us" and tell him to get himself a Barbie doll and play with her as much as he wants.

Don't ever let a man manipulate you. There are ALOT of scum bags out there, but also ALOT of GREAT men as well. Just my opinion!

Cheers!
-M

P.S.
I am not against anyone or anything. I just like to express what I feel. No misunderstandings please. If someone feels offended, then I am sorry. Just don't read my blog then ;) xoxo